Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Getting married .... yayyyyy

So its been long that I blogged,and after a long time I have decided to share my happy news.  To some its old news.  Been engaged since last year, (he proposed on his birthday) and I said yes..  So excited and happy to be getting married to my best friend and my love.  He is not just changing my last name from Sarah Kelechi Nwosu to Sarah Kelechi Emmanuel Okorafor .... but he has changed my life.  So the planning begins ....

Friday, May 17, 2013

Overview

I love blogging, but most times I try to post what makes sense.  I have seen several blogs and I love the posts and all,  but I want to be  different and unique.  In the blogging world,  I have seen people talk about personal stuffs or just stuffs in general.  Well I prefer both.  Thus, I am going to try a new approach. I also love giving advice to people.  so that's the overview to the new blogs for me. (Hope it makes sense)

Monday, March 11, 2013

Boobies Preaching Pastor, showing off her boobs for the Lord (or to attract horny members) lol

Ok, blessed are those who are blessed with the two huge melons, that they may cause commotion. I know what I just had made no sense, but any who. Saturday evening, while I was out with the girls, my sister brought up the topic about the preacher lady with her boobs all out and part of her nipples almost showing. Ok.. what is the church becoming? If she were my pastor ( Thank God shes not) I would be attracted to her boobs, not the preaching. I don't thing her dressing is appropriate for a preacher. If you want to get yourself noticed, not by looking like a cheap whore. And the camera person keeps zooming on her boobs ( I would do same lol). Whatever shes saying out of her mouth makes no sense when she has her body exposed to the world.  Why would her husband encourage this? I will not classify myself as a holy christian, there are some of my clothes that I have that are boobies reveling, I used to wear them, because I thought that was what made me more beautiful and made men attracted to me. But I was wrong. A woman's breast should be a thing of pride, and should remain covered. But today the media and society makes it ok for us to expose body parts and think its a sexy way to express ourselves. May God help us all.


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

I MUST MARRY...

This  is the cry of a desperate single woman who is hitting the big  3 0 or is already in her 30's, and today so many Nigerian churches are rising, and hosting revivals for desperate single women. Just 2 days ago I saw a picture on a friend's blackberry display picture, and this was the theme of the event "GIVE ME A SPOUSE OR I DIE". Like come on, when has getting married become a serious issue like this. So if you don't ever get married, you will commit suicide and die? What FOOLISH pastor would encourage such a nonsense. When you get that spouse who you almost killed yourself for, and he ends up to be  the monster you've heard about in newspapers and on TV then you wish you were rather single or even dead.
   What happened to waiting for the RIGHT one? My generation is in a state of  commotion. We live in the fast world of communication and technology, that even meeting your spouse has to be a MICROWAVE thing. I have talked a lot about marriage and divorce and also about meeting the right one. Ladies when did it become a sin or a law that if you are not married at a certain age, your whole world is over? These days, women are in unnecessary competition with themselves over who gets married first or whose husband is the sexiest or the richest. Remember life is not all about being sexy or being rich. Because even the bible says that "All is vanity". One day his 6 packs will become 1 pack, and his 10 figure dollar account can become 4 figure account. Haven't we seen or learnt from the mistakes of others? Why do we keep dragging marriage in the mud? They get married just because they want that ring and then divorce after 72 days?
    It is even worse among Nigerian women. Its like if they don't get married at a certain age, they jump on the very next thing with pants and a dick to marry them. Ladies, where is your self-esteem? Haven't you seen women who are single and making it? I am not against marriage, I believe in marriage, but I also stand for being with the right man or woman. The one who makes you happy, makes you complete, and brings out the beauty and potential in you. Not one who hardly cares about you or sees you as a sex object. So my fellow single ladies, WAIT for MR. RIGHT. He will come looking for you. Don't go looking for HIM. Men smell desperation even from afar off.



BY THE WAY THESE PASTORS LOOK SO HUNGRY... CHURCH IN NIGERIA IS NOW A MONEY MAKING BUSINESS.... (THAT NA TOPIC FOR ANOTHER DAY)

Poverty.... Living on Minimum Wage In America

         What is poverty, and what does it mean to be poor? Ever gone to bed without food? Have you ever felt bad wasting that food that you just could not finish? So what really does it mean to be poor? I happen to live in the most popular country in the world, United States of America, but it is sad to know that people,  citizens, not illegal immigrants or legal immigrants still live in abject poverty. I remember after I graduated from high school in Nigeria, I wanted to come to the US because I heard so much about the US; the land flowing with milk and honey, God's OWN NATION *(Another topic for another day). A nation where 22% of the nation's wealth is in the hands of 1%. While the rest live in poverty, and children live in homeless shelters.
        Coming from Africa, Nigeria to be precise, I remember seeing all the wonderful pictures of America. I actually thought money grew on trees and where one could get a job just like that. I arrived the US about 8 years ago, and I remember being young and looking for a job. I never had to look for a job in my entire life. Well coming to the US I knew that it wasn't going to be a bed of roses, I knew I had to work, and get off my parents tail. Luckily for me, my whole family came along, so I wasn't lonely. To go straight to the point, I love living in the US trust me it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, but I wonder if the media ever shows the amount of poverty in the US like they do for African countries. Seen those ads on mid-day/late night tv, when that old guy comes out asking for your $1 a day donation to feed the homeless and orphans in other nations?  The media shows that third world countries live in abject poverty. They forget to show the upper-class families, the middle-class families, the average families, the getting-by families  and the By the Grace of God families. All the media shows is that third world nations are POOR and they need help. NO.... Not every nation in the world is so poor that they have to live in homeless shelters, or cant afford too feed their families. Don't get me wrong, there are poor families in third world nations, so poor that they cant afford a place to sleep. My point is that just as the media shows how these countries are suffering, I think that they should be honest in letting the world know that THE US ALSO HAS THE POOR ALSO. My first shock when I first came to the US was seeing a homeless man beg on the streets. YES I WAS TAKEN ABACK. I never knew that there were beggars in the US, in DC for that matter. I remember my uncle tell me yes we have so many beggars and poor people in the US. And I wonder why I never saw the other side of the great United States Of America on TV. The great United states have families who live below the minimum wage, with children living in poverty and some who can't afford to eat 3 square meals a day. That a child comes to school hungry and feeds on the school's provided lunch.
       Luckily, in the US, there are government assistance that helps people meet up to their need (SNAP, TANF, SECTION 8 HOUSING), but do all these government assistance help all the way?
Honestly, I cannot answer that, because I cannot say I understand what it feels like living in poverty.
Do you know that the federal minimum wage is $7.25 per hour? Some people even live below the federal minimum of $7.25. If you calculate how much that is in a month, working 40 hours a week, minus taxes, that will not be enough to pay rent (depending on the area where you live).
Some of you might be wondering why I am all on this poverty issue. I guess I never get to appreciate the life I have, until I live in someone else's shoe . Last semester, I had to live on less than $50 a week on food. (I think it was $30 or $40, cant remember). Anyhow, it was the toughest time for me. I had to live on a budget, and not eat any outside food. So imagine a family of 4 living on $40 a week on food? Eating healthy is expensive and also eating junk food is also expensive. That is why we are a nation of obesity, diabetes, and cardiovascular disease.
       I just finished watching a video 30 days- Minimum wage by Morgan Spurlock and his Fiancee Alex, who tried living on minimum wage for 30 days. Watching this video made me realize that poverty hits home hard. Seeing the effects of living below minimum wage was HARD. I don't know how they did it. Mr. Spurlock even had to take an extra job to  make ends meet. The funny thing was that it was a family of 2. Imagine if they had kids. With kids, it would have been HELL. Don't get me wrong, having children is a thing of joy, but the question is when is ready to be ready for kids? According to the short film by Morgan child care costs $10,000 a year. That is just for child care alone. This is minus diapers, baby food, clothing, health care, entertainment etc.
    In summary, I think the Government has to do something about the living condition of its citizens here at home. It is just like a mother who abandons her children and focuses on other people's children. I also think that the rest of the world is blind to the matters that occurs here in the US, because the US is seen as the BIG BROTHER of the world. Always jumping in when there is some form of trouble going on.
Finally, like I asked in my introduction, what is poverty? And what do you understand to be living in poverty?  If you had to live below the poverty line or you make ends meet, do you still think that you have enough? Or you want more. Do you take note of your environment and see those who live in poverty?Poverty leads to violence and crime, it also leads to divorce, and other health issues. POVERTY, IS ONE THING I PRAY NOT TO EVER HAPPEN TO ME OR MY GENERATION. But who knows tomorrow? Those who are poor did they ask to be born in poverty?
THINK ABOUT THAT.

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Leadership in Africa.

This week has been so exciting, fulfilling and awesome. I have been talking a lot about leadership and association with my best-friend (My Fiancee). We have a routine where we share what we learnt in Church with each other  Since I didn't attend Church service last Sunday, he told me what the pastor preached. The teaching was the continuation of a previous series, which talked about leadership and association.  Today, I watched a video on www.ted.com, a lecture by Patrick Awuah, he talked about educating leaders and his experience before he left Ghana, and his awakening moment that made him come back home to Ghana  to train leaders and teach the youth of Ghana to critically think.
Changes starts from within. Our leaders in Africa are so engulfed in their own comfort zones. They go about squandering the resources of the nation, thereby forgetting about the people who placed them in power. Patrick is right that the leaders are the elite group. The problem with Africa is that they don't believe in bringing out the potentials in people. They would rather let one become a nuisance and then they blame it on other factors. Africa needs to rise up and move ahead. That is where we belong, ahead. We need to keep training our leaders right from Kindergarten. As a kid who grew up in Nigeria, we used  to sing a song which goes " Parents listen to your children, we are the leaders of tomorrow" , I never felt like a leader until I left Nigeria, and  moved to the United States, and I became exposed to new things. I became even more courageous,   and I made up my mind to go back home to educate my people. Africa will one day catch up with the rest of the world. Rome wasn't built in a day. We need more people abroad to rise up, come home and make a change.  Yes there would be oppositions. Rome wasn't built in a day. There were also oppositions when Rome was built.

When married men act like married men and not like home boy

Some people would look at this title and assume that I hate men or that I am crazy or something like that. Well, none of the 2. In fact I love men, and I respect them ( well those who deem it fit to respect themselves). I was listening to the radio 2 days ago while driving home from school, and the topic was based on why so many mariages fail and why some dont work. Dont get me wrong, I am not saying that a failure of  a marriage is the man's fault, it is is both parties fault (in some cases).
I have noticed ( especially with the men) that when most of them get married, they tend to still live in their "boyhood" lifestyle.
1. Some still act like they are stil single and forget that their status has changed. They still want to hang with the boys every weekend ( I mean friday -Sunday) forgetting that they have a wife and maybe a kid at home. Im not against hanging out with the boys, they can do that but if it was every weekend when they were single, it should be once a month of twice a month and spend time with the wife.
2. Guys once you are married, YOU ARE OFFICIALLY OFF THE MARKET!!!!!! And I mean OFF..... No need to be chasing after single women. You made your choice in picking your woman, so stick to her and make her your number one.
Dont go for the single girls out there and give them false hopes, because if you love your woman (for you to marry her) you would never leave her for one girl you just met.
3. Please, WHERE YOUR WEDDING RING... You send out the wrong message especially to vulnerable young women.