Leadership in Africa.

This week has been so exciting, fulfilling and awesome. I have been talking a lot about leadership and association with my best-friend (My Fiancee). We have a routine where we share what we learnt in Church with each other  Since I didn't attend Church service last Sunday, he told me what the pastor preached. The teaching was the continuation of a previous series, which talked about leadership and association.  Today, I watched a video on www.ted.com, a lecture by Patrick Awuah, he talked about educating leaders and his experience before he left Ghana, and his awakening moment that made him come back home to Ghana  to train leaders and teach the youth of Ghana to critically think.
Changes starts from within. Our leaders in Africa are so engulfed in their own comfort zones. They go about squandering the resources of the nation, thereby forgetting about the people who placed them in power. Patrick is right that the leaders are the elite group. The problem with Africa is that they don't believe in bringing out the potentials in people. They would rather let one become a nuisance and then they blame it on other factors. Africa needs to rise up and move ahead. That is where we belong, ahead. We need to keep training our leaders right from Kindergarten. As a kid who grew up in Nigeria, we used  to sing a song which goes " Parents listen to your children, we are the leaders of tomorrow" , I never felt like a leader until I left Nigeria, and  moved to the United States, and I became exposed to new things. I became even more courageous,   and I made up my mind to go back home to educate my people. Africa will one day catch up with the rest of the world. Rome wasn't built in a day. We need more people abroad to rise up, come home and make a change.  Yes there would be oppositions. Rome wasn't built in a day. There were also oppositions when Rome was built.

When married men act like married men and not like home boy

Some people would look at this title and assume that I hate men or that I am crazy or something like that. Well, none of the 2. In fact I love men, and I respect them ( well those who deem it fit to respect themselves). I was listening to the radio 2 days ago while driving home from school, and the topic was based on why so many mariages fail and why some dont work. Dont get me wrong, I am not saying that a failure of  a marriage is the man's fault, it is is both parties fault (in some cases).
I have noticed ( especially with the men) that when most of them get married, they tend to still live in their "boyhood" lifestyle.
1. Some still act like they are stil single and forget that their status has changed. They still want to hang with the boys every weekend ( I mean friday -Sunday) forgetting that they have a wife and maybe a kid at home. Im not against hanging out with the boys, they can do that but if it was every weekend when they were single, it should be once a month of twice a month and spend time with the wife.
2. Guys once you are married, YOU ARE OFFICIALLY OFF THE MARKET!!!!!! And I mean OFF..... No need to be chasing after single women. You made your choice in picking your woman, so stick to her and make her your number one.
Dont go for the single girls out there and give them false hopes, because if you love your woman (for you to marry her) you would never leave her for one girl you just met.
3. Please, WHERE YOUR WEDDING RING... You send out the wrong message especially to vulnerable young women.