Monday, October 29, 2012

My YOLO(You Only Live Once) List

Couple of weeks ago, I was watching the Katie Couric show on ABC, and she talked about her YOLO list. This is more like a bucket list, Instead of calling it a bucket list, I prefer YOLO list. I have made about 12 things to do before I die, or should I say before I turn 75. Ranking them from easy to hardest.
1. Skinny Dipping:  I've always wanted to go skinny dipping ever since I knew what it was, so yeh, I'm gonna get naked, and skinny dip (lol)
2. Learn how to swim: Yeh I  know you thinking the same thing how will she learn how to skinny dip if she cant swim? Well I have to learn how to swim first before I skinny dip.
3. Learn how to sew: I remember trying to mend some of my dad's clothes, and I got frustrated. So I'm gonna have to learn it again, and be very good at it.
4. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or Orphanage: I haven't done any volunteer activities in the past, and I have always wanted to visit an orphanage or feed the homeless, during Thanksgiving or Christmas.
5. Visit a new country every year, or every other year: I did a lot of travelling with my dad as a kid(Which i don't have memories of), so I want to create new memories.
6. Write a book: Maybe Children books, or something.
7. Learn a new language: Thinking Spanish, Russian, or French
8. Go on a cruise ship: With my whole family.
9.* Get over my fear of dogs and cats*,  every time I see a dog or a cat, I always run. So I really have to get over that fear.
10. Want to drive a very expensive red car(Bentley, Lamborghini, or anyone ), for a day
11. Get over my fear of heights
12. Sky dive: Yeh I saved the best for last, SKY DIVING....

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Daddy issues

Being a parent is one of the world's toughest job. Being my parent, is even more tough. I come from a disciplined home, dad was strict, and I thought he was just plain wicked and cruel. Now that I am an adult, I get what he was doing. Though he kinda over did it sometimes, but he always disciplined me in love.

Growing up, I was a very obedient, quiet, shy kid. I was the biggest cry baby in the world, and very emotional. So I tried staying out of trouble. But whenever I committed a crime,(children crimes), I bring down the roof, and then I got the spanking of my life. I remember one time I almost burnt down the house. I had just cleaned up my room, and I used old newspapers to cover the windows, and then I think I was trying to smoke a wrap of paper (I was like 9 years old), and the fire from the warp of paper got  on the papers on the window, cause I was very close to the window, and the whole newspapers caught fire. That day, I got the beating of my life, so funny now that I look back. Also, when I was in primary school at Gideon International Isolo, I hated the subject Maths with a passion. My dad spent so much money on math tutors, that didn't change the way I felt about math. So at the end of the term, I brought home my results, and I had a 30% in math, and a 99% in Yourba ( Yourba is a Western Nigerian Language). Yes, I had a 99% in Yourba, and a 30% in math. That night when my dad came home and saw the result, I really can't say what happened. It was a Chinese movie, with dad as Jakie Chan, and me as the Bad guy. Incidents like these, made me hate my dad like hell. I felt like the most  hated child in the world.

I remember when I had my first boyfriend, I was 15 he was 26 or so ( a crime in America lol). When my dad heard that I was talking to a guy on my street, that was it, he almost had my neck that day. Then I hated him even more. Fast forward to present, and I've had several relationships, and I never introduce the guys to my parents. And I asked myself why?
One day, it came to me " I HAVE DADDY ISSUES".  What is daddy issues u might be wondering, I will explain it in a very easy way. Daddy issues, is when you have issues with your dad, and you think and treat all the men in your life as your dad (Ok if u don't understand this, I dont either). So because I had daddy issues, and I wasn't close to my dad, and I took the way he disciplined me as him being a monster, I was wrong. In fact, my dad loves me more than I can ever imagine. He once told me that the reason he was so hard on me, was because he wanted me to become better than him in future.
My dad, being a disciplinarian, wanted me to do this in a certain way. In one of my blogs, I mentioned how people advised  us to all become nurses when we first came to America. And dad was so bent on me doing nursing. When I dropped out of nursing school, he was so mad at me. I was got angry, and at that point, my war with my father became bigger than World War II, it was  Nwosu War, between Kelechi and her dad. Everyone was so concerned about the war between him and I, and I was miserable. At that moment, I had a lot going on. After loosing my mom and my sister under a year, I blamed my dad for everything. I guess the hatred I had as a kid, grew even stronger and stronger.
After counselling, and prayers, and so many talks from my friends, sister and fiance, I finally decided to make up with my dad. Funny, my dad and I are gradually becoming close, and we now understand each other a little better. And I appreciate him more now than ever.
 I am glad I am over my daddy issues now, and I hope its finally over. Though we might still have some clashes, it wont be as bad as it was, cos now there is a mutual understanding between us now.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Day 2 of the food stamp challenge..... and i hear the lion roaring in my stomach

Ok, I should have just written a 6 page paper, instead of taking this challenge. So yesterday I cheated, (my 2 day old bowl of rice) so I decided to stick by the rules today.The time currently is 1:51 pm, and I just ate my 3rd apple, which includes my breakfast, and lunch. I didn't plan this challenge well, so I have to accept the consequences and make it to the 7th day. Like seriously, I feel gassy, and bloated.


Well with this experience, I guess I will be able to understand how people who are low income earners survive. And I get to appreciate the times I get to eat a full 3 square meal.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Food stamp challenge Day 1 and I am STARVING....

I  started a class project in my women's health class, and its called " The Food stamp challenge". In this class project I'm  supposed to spend only $30 a week on food that is $4.30 a day. Like really? This challenge is to experience how people on food stamps in America survive on $30 a day on food, and how to make healthy food choices on a low budget income.
 I love my spinach Stromboli from Sabaros at the University of Maryland food court, for $4.98; living on a budget for a week, I wont be able to afford my Italian lunch (sad face).
Well the challenge started today, and boy was I starving. First I woke up late, and was 16 mins late for my 8am class, (I hate 8 am classes). While heading for the door, I grabbed an apple and a yoplait yogurt. I had the apple for breakfast and forgot the yoplait yogurt in my car (still in my car as I speak). After 12 hours of hunger, I got home to consume a 2 day old bowl of  rice in my fridge. Any who I survived the first day of the food challenge, 6 more days to go.
  So far, Ive done my shopping for the week, and  this is a list of my shopping;
1 nature promise whole wheat bread for $2.50,
10 cups of yoplait yogurt for $10,
 a gallon of milk  for $3.89
 a variety oatmeal for $2.99 and
a bag of apples for $3.99.
 Just listing this, I just realized that I just bought items for breakfast and snacks, no lunch or dinner (or lord, im gonna lose 10 pounds by Monday).  I hope to finish this challenge by abiding by the rules... (sighs deeply)
ONE DAY DOWN....... 6 MORE TO GO.


One more thing, part of this challenge is that I cannot dine out, or eat at any parties or accept any free food. YEH, I CANNOT ACCEPT ANY FREE FOOD.......My co worker feeds me every Fridays.So  for this week, I have to reject her food.
Does anyone want to join me?

Monday, October 8, 2012

Insecurities

While watching  "The voice" today (on demand). During the interview session,  one of the contestants  she said she had insecurity issues. Talking about her weight and being bullied in school, and one thing she said that caught my ears was "I have insecurity issues, and I'm gonna be insecure for life". She just destroyed herself.  Why would she say she was gonna be insecure for life?  We all have insecurity issues, but we should never claim them.
I used to be so insecure. Growing up I was so  skinny and tall for my age, and also a  timid little girl. Everyone made fun of me.  I hated my height, and my weight. I wanted to be a fat kid. Then I grew up to be a (I hate using the word 'FAT" but I'm gonna use it anyways) FAT adult ( yehhhhh I love the sound of that "ADULT"). And people still complain about my weight, and everyone keeps telling me to lose the weight and return to my high school weight of 120 pounds.  But when I was skinny, everyone around me wanted me to be fat. I got depressed about it, and insured about it also. Most times I look at myself in the mirror, and I go, "dang I hate my body".  I realized that was the  insecure side of me talking. Then one day I had the "AHHH" moment, I am beautiful, I love my body, I love how I look. I might not weigh 120 pounds anymore, but I am a confident woman. And I am proud to be me.

I still want to lose some pounds, to get to a healthy weight, not because someone wants me to be skinny or because I wanna look like Beyonce (Yeh B u beautiful alright), but I am doing it for me. Not to look sexy (I am already a sexy diva), or be like one of those models in magazines.
 What I am saying in general, never let your insecurities define who you are, be unique, and different. Love your self first, cos if you don't love yourself, no one would love you.
Your insecurities don't make you, THEY ONLY BREAK YOU.
Peace out and good nite...

Re-constructing

Its been a very long week, with  exams and quizzes  with a bombarded crazy  exam last Friday. So I had to re-construct my schedule and certain things and distractions. I realized that when things dont go as planned, you start looking for ways to make it right again. There is always a plan B to every plan A. And if plan B fails, I would keep going till I get to Z.

What does't kill me only makes me stronger...... AND IM A FIGHTER... I NEVER QUIT 

Friday, October 5, 2012

20 Facts of relationships

I saw this on a friend's page (Efe Adegor) on Facebook, and I decided to share it. Though I don't agree with all of them, I feel makes sense. 
Enjoy 
1. There is nothing like a perfect
relationship.
2. No romance without sacrifice.
3. Every woman has a price.
4. Never trust your partner in
your absence.
5. Those who cheat and lie
before marriage are most likely
to continue to do so in marriage.
6. Most relationships are
relationships of convenience.
7. What most lovers mistake for
love is actually lust that will not
last the test of time.
8. The bitter truth works like
bitter pills.
9. The sooner we dump those
who cheat and lie the better and
happier we would be.
10. You may force a girl to go out
with you, but you cannot force
her to love you.
11. Most men who beat women
also cheat on women.
12. Believe it or not, an unfaithful
partner can also kill you.
13. Once a cheater, always a
cheater and once a liar, always a
liar.
14. Destroy conceit and deceit or
conceit and deceit will ruin you.
15. Wise men do not gossip
about women.
16. Never bet on any woman on
fidelity.
17. Never fall in love with a
woman who does not love you.
18. The lust for money and sex is
the ruin of all relationships.
19. You do not need money to
win the heart of a woman or
marry a woman who truly loves
you.
20. You can lose all your
possessions, but never give up
your love.

Fear

I have learnt somethings about fear, in the past. Fear of the Unknown, fear of failure, even the fear to succeed. And one thing I realized is that FEAR is not of GOD... but its of the devil. He places this spirit of fear in us, and we begin to believe it. I remember growing up, I was so scared of science and math classes (yes sciences.. ie Biology, Chemistry, Physics), and I wanted to become a lawyer because there wasn't going to be any math or science involved (not that im saying that all lawyers are scared of math or science or are not geniuses). I was looking for the easy way out to escape math and science classes. So fast forward to 2005. I came to the US, and being a Nigerian, people advised us (mom, dad, Oge and I ) to do Nursing. BOOMMMM.... I was like oh HELL NO... I didn't like nurses, let alone become one. Well as the bible say honor ur parents shey? So I started taking my science classes, and math classes. Funny enough I failed Bio107 (at Montgomery College) 2 times. YES I FAILED THAT CLASS TWICE, WHY? Cos I had the same mentality of being scared of Science classes, but on the third trial (which was my last chance), I passed it, because It was also a human like me who created these formulas and steps..
      What am I blabbing about here. Fear can stop you from moving forward in life. Whenever the spirit of fear decides to knock on ur door always remember that "God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of LOVE AND A SOUND MIND" 2nd Timothy 1:7.